I just finished watching the Romantics. I enjoyed two things from it. First Malin Akerman and Katies Holmes in their underwear alot (odd for me to see Anne Paquin not undress all the time, I guess she needs a vampire for that). And secondly the acting is actually decent. The rest leaves to be desired. Essentially, what I got from it is: Romantic period should be called slut period, Never date within a circle of best friends, and don't marry because "it makes sense" or "it is the next step" etc... I must admit, the concept of 20-somethings getting married and become miserable is nothing new, but i guess some people still near to hear it.
Besides the decision based on "stages of life", romance is the dumbest reason to want to be with someone. Call me a cynic, but it has been documented that divorce rates have sky rocketed with the new concept of getting married solely on the premise of love and romance.
Marriage is a simple legal and religious agreement to be 'faithful' and stick together. It was used as a tool of segregation (rich marrying rich, poor marrying poor...) for centuries and even ended making the whole blue blood idiocy during the modern age.
To make any relationship work the best key is getting and giving what is expected of you. Simple, yet it can be so difficult.
The problem is when someone actually thinks the entire thing is non-stop passion and crazy stalkerish feelings. So, when things get settled and stable they panic and think they are out of love and then a whole shitstorm of pain and resentment ensues and more often then not does not survive when everyone realises that even if the passion is not a conflagration, embers still burn and can ignite again.
Of course, it is oddly safer to be married. Women are most likely to be abused while in cohabitation, even if they marry afterwards. And instances of infidelity are higher as well. I presume the legality frightens people.
Life is not a book or a movie (especially nothing by Nicholas Sparks), romance is misleading.
Marry your best friend, because a relationship should be sleeping with your best friend exclusively.
Oh and if I hear one more woman "seeking her knight in shinning armour" or "What happened to chivalry?" I will explode. 'Chivalrous behaviour' is about infidelity, misogyny, and objectification of women. It never went away.
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